Monday, February 19, 2007

(Words of Wisdom By Melinda Byers)

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Life Lessons


So recently I have been going through a lot of life changes and I have been forced to make some very difficult decisions a few of which I am regretting, but those are mainly work related.

I have learned a lot in this process. I learned that even when you are helping other people and it seems obvious to you that you deserving of reward, humans will not give you what you deserve.

I learned that children lie often and it really taints your view of them even if you love them to pieces.

I learned that it is important to parent at all times as children lie all the time and your view is tainted.

I learned that no matter how much you give, especially to family it is never enough and never right.

I learned that even though I am right a vast majority of the time, people just plain don't listen to me.

I also learned that if I am ever going to succeed in life, I have to take everything into my own hands and stop working for other people.

I learned that it is important to purge yourself of toxic relationships as soon as you see them so that you are stuck in heartbreak or become the, "In Between Girl."

I also learned that I really want to get a piece of that NFL money. I am working on that.

I also learned that I am at this juncture in my life, because God is getting ready to move and do great things within me and through me and that I am only being tested because I am blessed. This is God putting me through the fire after he had beaten and molded me into the fine piece of China that I know I will be when all is said and done. I can feel it now, so I am holding strong to my faith which is the best lesson I have learned so far.


So I wish you all lessons like mine so that we can all come out in the end fine as China.

Too Blessed to be Stressed,
Ms. Denva

5 comments:

Anonymous said...

Yeah...I would have to agree with you on EVERYTHING that you just said. I don't know if it's the lessons of life that are hard to learn or the teachers themselves, who usually wind up being people that are close to us.

The two lessons that struck me the most were 1. purging yourself of toxic relationships and 2. being tested by God because we are blessed. I think that the purging one goes hand in hand with what you wrote about having a broken heart (girl, you are so IN my mind all the time and I love you for that, lol). What's even more hurtful and sometimes devastatibng is when we realize that we are the ones that need to be removed from someone's life; and it takes a truly honest person to be able to admit that. It reminds me of a scene from the movie The Guardian, where Kevin Costner was explaining to his soon to be ex-wife why he chose to sign their divorce papers at that moment as opposed to earlier; he said that awhile back he rescued a husband and wife and by the time he got to them the husband was holding his wife under water trying to keep himself afloat and nearly killed her (I am paraphrasing this). Has anyone ever been the one holding someone back? If so, did you do the noble thing and let that person go or try to hold onto them until they let you go, at which point you got hurt even more?

As for God testing us...the SAT's were not THIS bad, lolol. There are times when I want to sit, cry...no bawl my eyes out, and just lay down and sleep it off. But I can't. Just as easily as I can lose it, it's just as easy, if not easier for me to say, "I don't know what You're doing, but I trust You." And have an overwhelming sense of peace about it.

Whoa...I'm kinda diggin' this blog thanks Ms. Denva!

~~Vanessa

paz y amor said...

People don't listen to you- wait, what'd you say?

The Counselor said...

Ms. Denva!!

Are you destroying my posts?? I SWEAR...I left comments for this post and the last...and they're gone...

...unless I posted under Kiyotoe's name and you erased it?...

Um...Anyway, I just came to say hi...

I said something really insightful the first time around...now...it's gone :(

Bad Denva....BAD!!!

The Counselor :)

ambandenva2 said...

Counselor,

So good to hear from you again. Blogger has been trippin, another friend of mine said that her stuff was erased too. I would not erase your stuff or the Dragon, even though he is being a turd. LOL. I love both yall like I love cake and trust me that is a lot of love. You too Paz you know you my boy and thanks for the pics of the aptly named "Juicy." I am going to try to make it out to hotlanta this summer to start staking out claims on my land. There's GOLD in them there hills. LOL Counselor, please try sending your comment again, I truly love your insight. or you can just email it to me. :-)

5280 Princess,

Ms. Denva

T.A.N. said...

adults lie as much as children, and at least children are innocent/naive when they lie.

NFL money is nice, but it comes at a cost. you want to get beat up like that for a living? baseball is the real hustle. good paper, and you can still look and feel pretty after.

agreed, about taking things in your own hands. good luck!