Pain
Have you ever stopped to notice the amount of pain you are in everyday? It may be physical or emotional or both, but there is pain. I am thinking more about this as I have been in both for some time now. I am working on things to improve the amount of pain I am in, but nonetheless, I am in pain.
Now I am not saying that we should rid ourselves of pain altogether as it is am important part of learning. Without physical pain we would not learn to listen, don't touch the hot stove or listen to our bodies, man my knee hurts maybe I should see if I need that surgery. Pain has its place and its purpose I am just not sure that I am enjoying the abundance of it in my life.
I have also realized that people will inflict pain on you unconciously and then it is up to you as to whether or not you will bear the burden of that physical or emotional pain, that was not meant to be that in the first place. Ughhh!
A movie the exemplifies pain is Crash. What an awesome movie. It rips off America's racial band aid and begins to pour peroxide in the festering wound of inequality, bigotry, prejudice and racism in general. There were all kinds of emotional pain and a few moments of physical pain in that movie. The one that stuck out for me was the moment when the cop stopped the Black couple and felt the woman up while the man had no choice but to watch. The pain that the cop sent through that couple was not just for that night, but a wound that is sooo deep seeded in African-American history. That of emasculating the Black man. 
We have seen the lynching photos with the genitals cut off to symbolize control over the Black man, and yet daily Black men are emasculated and pained by society, their women and the world over.
So, when does the pain stop. At what point is enough, enough? I need someone, anyone to stand up and stop taking pain as apart of life and begin to make it as apart from life as possible.
Sounding off,
Ms. Denva
3 comments:
I think it's impossible to separate pain (in every aspect) from life. I'm not talking in a Puritanical way, it's just that pain is necessary. It's not always good- no, BUT it helps us to keep focused on the things that REALLY matter. You feel that pain for a reason, you just have to find a positive way to relieve yourself of the pain. Once you find that path, each day, it will hurt less and less....
I think pain is an inevitable part of life. To feel pain, whether physically or emotionally, is how we know that we're still alive. Should we welcome it? Ugh...no! LOL But, I think the key is how we respond to it.
As African American men and women, the way we can react to the pain of inequality and racism is to actively speak out against it (i.e. becoming more involved in politics, voting, community activism, etc.)
The way we can deal with the unintentional pain that others inflict on us daily is by being candid with our feelings. Often times, we are afraid to tell people that they've hurt us--but we should. Again, it reinforces the fact that we are human--and we feel things...like pain...and it hurts.
Those who really care about you will do what they can to stop the pain...and for all others who can't "feel" your pain--forget them...for they lack a basic trait of humanity.
Loved your post!
Pain is essential to appreciate the "good" times. One thing that i've learned is that whenever there's pain involved, if it doesn't kill you, it truly does make you stronger.
Not to mention that pain is relative, it's all about what you hold dearest to you.
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