So this love thing...hmmm. What is it really? I have done some Google searching on the topic. I have asked my friends, I have asked my family and I have asked myself, at that point is when I had a revelation. Love is what I make of it. If I think I love something then it is true for me. It is real genuine love. Now I have discussed the varied types of love in Bible Study and I do believe that there are times when I force myself to be more in love than I really am. However, when those emotions do surface, it is still true love in my heart. It hurts when it is thrown aside and taken for granted and it feels great when it is appreciated and reciprocated. I love the above picture because that is what love should be, our very own comfort zones. Love is comfort food for the soul. Everyone knows that I love cake, that is my serious comfort food. Hence my love for birthdays. My Dad gave me some great advice, which I will give you a snippet of, because I honestly believe he should do seminars on this topic. He told me that I should only be with a person that comes with their cake baked and that should only be when my cake is also baked. Great advice right? You should have been there for the whole story. I feel like I should no longer shun love past, present and future. Love is there to helps us learn about ourselves and others. Did you know that without love, touch and attention a baby can die. It is called failure to thrive and there have been many studies that show that a baby that is born and is ignored can and has died in many instances. Love is as vital to us as air, water and food. So why is it that when we become adults we push love away and try to convince ourselves and others that we don't need love, we can do this by ourselves? That is soo not true and we have to realize that when it comes to humans and love there can and will be loss, but during that time we are learning at every step. Being a life long learner I know that there are always moments to learn and they can be very painful, but that is exactly what they are... moments. We are not meant to be alone that is why we have families and make friends. So I have come to the conclusion that I am happy to love and be in love at the right time, whenever that is. Love was meant for everyone and yes, that includes the 5280 Princess, Ms. Denva. So the 5280 Princess is going to go on ahead and open herself up to finding the love that she is meant to have. I am fully aware that this might hurt, but those scrapes and bruises create a story that is my life and I am ready to live again.
The 5280 Princess,
Ms. Denva
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Amber, I am not sure if you knew that you sent this on Rick's birthday. I did find someone with a baked cake at exactly the same time mine was coming out of the oven. Love does help us learn about ourselves and I learned so much from your uncle Rick. I'm glad we are family and I love you Amber.
i just wrote a long eloquent beautiful response and it didn't save.
Shortened version says, you're right, Love is crucial and as long as we have it in our lives we can overcome a lot of things.
Good to hear that you are opening up yor heart and soul to love again. I think too often women; especially black women get caught up in the G.O.B.B (Ghost of the Bitter Bitch). Pardon my french here but it is a common occurence and you know that I am a straight shooter. Too often women can allow past failures or jealousy to sway there way and often they get in their own way. Simply put if you take time to open your eyes , look at life in general and yourself in the mirror, the picture becomes very clear. Its not always pretty but you can change the outcome of that often. Hell if I can find it then anyone can and that is real talk. You know me Ms. Denva!
Anonymous (Lori),
Thank you so much for this comment. I was in happy tears when I read it. Your marriage to Rick has been one of the few marriages where I saw true respect, love, admiration and the work that needs to be put into that type of relationship. I have seen how you all resolved conflict, how you raised your children and how you loved. It was a beautiful site, really. When you told me that you couldn't breath without him, my heart broke in millions of pieces for you and I wanted to fix it so much. You all were a wonderful couple and I only hope to have the strength and love that you shared and that is ever present in your children.
Love,
Ms. Denva
Kiyotoe,
That is so true. Especially when you have real mainly unconditional love. I know a couple who got into a terrible car accident and for years, the husband took care of the wife while she recovered. He changed her diapers, helped her with therapy and just provided the love and support that would be vital to her healing. I have seen just the love of a child brighten up a day. Love is a powerful tool that we all possess, but we seem to use it either too sparingly or overly so.
5280 Princess,
Ms. Denva
Brandon,
G.O.B.B. huh? I have not heard of that term, you should coin it and get money for that. Seminar anyone? It is difficult not to be bitter when you have been hurt by someone that you love and I have seen men become just as bitter if not more so than women. We all know the pain of a broken heart that is not gender specific, but how we deal with it seems to be. Women seem to brood about it more where as men seem to be the jump back on the horse types. It has taken me awhile as you know to get to this point, but I feel that I want to take that part of my life back and become more empowered in that area. So here it goes, I am going off the high dive feet first and I only hope there is a lot of water to break my fall.
5280 Princess,
Ms. Denva
"love is comfort food for the soul"
this means we can have too much of it right? or at least, we shouldn't have too much of it? everything in moderation, even love.
it seems counterintuitive for something as delicious as cake, err Doritos, errr love. but i think it's true, you can have too much love. or at least, you can love too much.
maybe? i don't know now ...
T.A.N,
Thanks for dropping by, I am honored. I dunno, I don't think you can have too much love as long as it is healthy positive love. There are times when one can feel smothered by someone who loves them, but the feeling of love in my opinion never gets old.
5280 Princess,
Ms. Denva
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